Was
eating at a hotel recently at a far off place from my hometown. Mom and dad
were giving constant instructions on how to eat and what not to order at the
table because we were dining with a hi-fi family, relative to our friends. I
have the habit of pouring the entire sambhar and chutney into the
plate before starting. But that was not to happen on that particular day. I didn’t
protest because that would’ve created a scene there. But, this raises a
fundamental question. Why do we lose our originality in the name of social
conduct and congeniality?
I see
my college mates saying, “Macha.. Chennai maadhiri varuma? Chancey illa…
Enga oorum dhaan iruke??” I mean no offence but Chennai is a fucking
developed city in terms of technology containing negligible quantity of
humanity and helping tendency. If one starts telling Chennai is awesome, it
becomes a disease. There may be posh five star hotels, luxurious malls and
multiplexes in every street. But can you get at least ten successive homes with
gardens at the backyard? Can you find someone who rents his cylinder for a
neighbor at times of need though the giver may also have his own set of
problems? (You know how many days it takes to book and get a cooking cylinder
in the present scenario) Now, think of this deeply and answer. Is Chennai
better than your hometown? So, always feel proud about your roots.
Next
thing is the movie scenario. I see people lamenting that Kollywood doesn’t get
quality movies like English or Korea. My reply to this allegation in one word
would be “ABSURD”. Firstly, we people have grown up seeing movies of our native
languages right from birth. How does this sudden hatred come after getting into
college or whatever? Watching 10 movies from Malayalam, Hindi and English and
generalizing that they are better than Tamil cinema is insane. We get to watch
only the filtered, good quality movies from the other languages because critics
and media report on them continuously. Each and every language has movies
without logic being released every now and then.
I see,
in my day – to – day surfing, people complaining nobody can come near
Christopher Nolan or Steven Spielberg. It may or may not be true. But, we have
our own tradition, a heritage that has been associated with us for ages. A
movie is complete only when it touches upon the story of the location and
people about which it speaks. For example, Aravaan depicted the life of
Kalvaargal; Naan Kadavul illustrated the Aghoris. It all lies in our
thought process. We’ve constantly been fed by our peers and mates that speaking
highly of English movies would make us superior. I bet people who regard movies
like Castaway and Schindler’s List and say that Hollywood is
Heaven might not have watched Mahanadhi or Pithamagan or Dhevarmagan. Be proud of our
culture, our cinema. After all, whether you like it or not, we’ve been born in
this land. At least, don’t degrade its pride.
Coming
to music, it is a universal language. Hearing heavy metal is not a sin but
telling that you don’t hear Tamil music with a sarcastic smile is blasphemy.
Many keep on mocking at the Carnatic music, making fun of the ghamakas and
alapanas. To them, I ask a simple question. How did you start liking
metal and rock? You started hearing, reheard the same genre several times until
you really fell in love with it. So, let the same be the case with the classical
also. Give priority to Aruna Sairam, Sanjay Subramaniam or at
least Shankar Mahadevan and Naresh
Iyer before going towards Akon, Pitbull and Justin Bieber.
If
you feel like eating Thayir Vadai, don’t hesitate to do that even in a
rich hotel. It’s your mouth, your digestive tract and your fucking choice.
Never give a second thought to choose your first love. I may be writing
in English, but my thought goes out for my native language. Whatever resume I
fill, I always like to write Tamil first in the ‘Languages Known’
column.
Be
proud of your roots; let your body and mind get energized on the thought of
being original and honest. And, do never fake your identity for anybody’ sake
at any cost. For me, Thamizhan Endru Solladaa!! Thalai Nimirndhu Nilladaa!!
WELL SAID...pala peru ipdithan ula oru maadriyum
ReplyDeleteveliya oru maadriyum nadichitu irukanga...:D
naan idha sonaa nee padikum bodhu
ReplyDeleteepdiyum kandipa siripa
"The more i read ur blog the more i get inspired"
aweome writning macha..:)
Aahaan.. Adichu vidu adichu vidu :P
Deletesema da.. i usually take the spoon/fork out of the noodles plate in hotels. i am used to it . and will never give it up . 'ORIGINALITY MATTERS" ..so true man
ReplyDeleteNandri macha.. Actually it isn't about hotels alone da!! Everywhere, I see people changing their way of speaking when they converse with their Girlfriends, etc etc..
DeleteFirst thing it is understandable that you are angry. There are many ways to express your anger, is it really required that you must use those words? This comment comes after observing your earlier blogs also.
ReplyDeleteYes I agree that people tend to fake themselves many a times and definitely I believe that my hands are more cleaner than the fork and spoons at the hotel. I love to drink the rasam remaining from my rasam chadam out of my plate and twist my hand on the plate and slurp in the thayir chadam, but definitely when I eat the same things outside with guests (not friends) I have to be more composed. This is called etiquette. It matters how I carry myself. The basic personality remaining the same, the superficial behaviour have to be fine tuned according to the occassion. Only when we change the basic personality to impress somebody and try to create a different opinion about us it is wrong. It is cheating ourselves and the others. In the name of originality one should not forget ones manners.
Ayyayo.. Is it becoming a heated conversation?? Am not angry and all Madam.. This is the way I am. More incidents happened than these but mentioning all those will be embarrassing.. And yeah, got the difference between congeniality and etiquette.. But please, do my words sound so rude??
DeleteI agree with certain aspects of your writing. The fact that you've continually emphasised on being proud of your heritage and "your choice" on certain matters.
ReplyDeleteI would like to say that all our lives, every form of media advises us to be ourselves while advertising a certain brand of "yourself". And unless every person completely embraces every facet of themselves, I don't think we will see anyone embracing our heritage.
Trust me, I can put down five horrible H'wood movies in a jiffy that are WAY WORSE than nanbenda . And just like Tamil cinema industry, HW has its own set of struggling actors and beautiful movies with lesser known actors. And yes, Hollywood is very sexist too.
I know public workers who've never stepped into an English speaking room have BETTER manners than many of my 'born-and-brought-up-with-english' classmates.
You've done a good job in writing down your frustration. Trust me, when I'm angry, all I can write is a string of swearwords. :P
-Jerlyn. :)
PS: naanum Tamil than first poduren mock-resume la. :P
Thanks, Jerlyn. Yeah, feeling proud about Tamil is a good thing. And, thank God you didn't make any mention about the food thing at hotels. Seriously, that has been a heated topic of discussion as you can see in the previous comments. But, thanks for understanding that it is just a symbolic implication :D
DeleteExactly bro!!
ReplyDeleteTamizhane thamizh pesavum, padikkavum asinga padavum senja apram enna panrathu !! Most spoken languages la top 20 la tamil irukku. Ipdiye pochuna innum knjm naal la thamizh list laye irukkathu :/
Its our duty to uplift our own language and its tradition at any cause !
It's not a mistake to learn Hindi and English. But Tamil theriyadhu nu solradhu asingam nu Tamilians ku puriyanum..! Thanks for following all my posts Anna :D
DeleteAmizhthenum inithenbar THAMIZH......!!
ReplyDeleteUnmayaana anubavam ondru....
Oru kallori'ku naanum en petrorum sendrirundhom....
Angu vandhirundha pengalum sari aangalum sari .... Migavum vasadhi aanavargal pol thaan irundhanar.......
Angu ulla anaivarukkum thamizh theriyum enbadhuthaan thavirka mudiyaatha UNMAI.....
Irundhaalum naan aangilathil naangu vaarthaigal pesiya piragu thaan ennidam 2 peraavadhu pechu kuduthanar.....
Angirundha anaivarum thamizhar thaan..... Aanal thamizh pesuvadhil mattum vekka pattatheno.!!!.... Theriyavillai.....
Avargalul ungalai pondra thamizh pesum thamizhanai kandirundhaal....... Manam thirupthi adainthirukkum......!!*
Unmai dhaan. Oru vaelai Thamizh theriyaamal irundhirukkalaam avargalukku. Therindhum paesaamalirunthirundhaal adhu avargalukku aerpatta avamaanam. Thamizhukkalla :) Thamizhanendru Solladaa; Thalai Nimirndhu Nilladaa!!
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